Ever notice how some people faced with a problem will "argue for the problem" and shoot down possible solutions when they are presented without giving the ideas any real consideration?
You may also notice that this individual during a career transition (and Job Search) will often stay separate from people and resources which can be pivotal factors for creating the very breakthrough they want. For reasons which are rarely examined, they seem determined to do it all themselves.
I call this pattern The Lone Ranger Syndrome.
Does this possibly describe what is happening for you now?
Are you attempting to solve your most challenging career problems on your own because you believe that asking for assistance is an admission of defeat and proves you are inadequate for a job? Believe it or not, this is a commonly held belief.
Can you see how these beliefs are tremendously limiting?
If this is happening for you, don't despair. There is a solution available. It is possible for you to move beyond the lone ranger syndrome. Stay with me.
If you have been tenaciously yet unknowingly keeping yourself separate from sources of empowerment like career coaching, while continuing to persist with the same strategies and thinking that aren't working, you can be pretty sure that there is a big part of you committed to the status quo.
Please understand that this is not logical. You may wholeheartedly believe you are committed to creating career change but there are other, unconscious forces which have some different ideas and agendas.
While you may feel that you really want change, you may in fact have a greater need for things to remain the same. This may be shocking but once embraced, it can be emancipating.
When your desire for something is greater than your resistance or fear, your desires are going to be realized. It may take a while, but it will happen.
When your fear, resistance or limiting beliefs are stronger than your desire, you will likely remain stuck and oftentimes you will not know why. Your conscious mind will make up a story about it, like it is the economy, your resume, etc.
You may in fact be like the proverbial hamster, spinning on his wheel but not getting anywhere. You may point to the fact of how hard you are working. Sound familiar?
The solution to the Lone Ranger Syndrome can be summed up by the phrase Empowering Partnership.
I'm not talking about partnering with just anybody. I am referring to partnership with those people who are already accessible to you (by virtue of the fact that you are reading this) with whom genuine empowerment and breakthroughs are possible. This is the kind of person who will tell you the truth that may be hard to hear yet emancipating at the same time.
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